Photo of MIca Miller and photo of host with guests on Aware and Prepared Podcast episode about Mica Miller Spiritual Abuse by her husband Pastor John Paul Miller

Justice For Mica: Exposing Spiritual Abuse in the Shadows


#JusticeForMica. This podcast episode delves into the tragic case of Mica Miller, the wife of Pastor John Paul Miller. She was found deceased with a “self-inflicted” gunshot wound shortly after having divorce papers and a no-contact order served to her husband.


Despite the medical examiner ruling it as a self-inflicted gunshot wound, suspicions of foul play continue due to Mica’s prior warnings about her husband’s potential involvement and the documented abuse she suffered from him.


Experts discuss the dangerous dynamics of abusive relationships within religious communities, highlighting the manipulation tactics used by perpetrators. They discuss Mica’s own reflections on forgiveness, abuse, and the church’s role in addressing domestic violence pointing out the complexities victims face.

The episode underscores the importance of recognizing and addressing abuse within religious communities and offering proper support to those navigating similar situations.


Lessons Learned

Warning signs of abuse: Mica’s experiences highlight red flags such as financial control, emotional manipulation, verbal abuse, and isolation from support networks.


Manipulation tactics: Perpetrators may use religious rhetoric, such as misinterpretations of scripture or guilt-tripping about forgiveness, to maintain control over their victims.


Importance of validation: Victims often face disbelief or blame when they speak out, exacerbating their trauma. Validation and support from trusted people can be crucial in helping them recognize the abuse and seek help.


Recognizing dangerous situations: Risk is elevated particularly when served with divorce papers and / or a no-contact order. A local domestic violence shelter or The can aid in assessing risk and safety planning.


Challenging cultural narratives: Societal expectations around marriage and forgiveness can perpetuate harmful situations. It’s essential to challenge these narratives and prioritize safety and well-being over pressures to maintain relationships at all costs.


Role of religious institutions: Religious communities should address domestic violence openly, providing support and resources for victims and holding perpetrators accountable. Education on healthy relationships and recognizing abuse should be integrated into religious teachings and practices.

You have a right to self defense – to peace and safety, which are basic human rights.



Evie Magazine article about Mica Miller


Annette Oltmanns The Mend Project 


Rev. Geneece Goertzen-Morrison podcast


Host info, Mandi Pratt at IG @WomenAwareAndPrepared


Mica’s Friend and Advocate, Kyler Harlowe Facebook Page


Gretchen Baskerville’s book, “The Life Saving Divorce


National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)


National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)


National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)


RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

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